I’m really tired and I promised myself I would write this blog. It seemed in my present exhaustion, I could not think of a damn thing to write about! I really prefer to write from inspiration. I was thinking I would write about the holidays, the fight I saw in a restaurant parking lot at lunchtime, or the upcoming solstice and full moon. None of these ideas were taking shape or flowing smoothly. Rumi to the rescue!! I pulled out my 365 Selected Quotes – Rumi book and did what I usually do, I opened it up to a page hoping to come upon some inspiration, which I did! I fanned the pages a few times and opened to page 34. This quote jumped off the page, “The rose’s rarest essence lives in the thorns.” It made me think of the shadow work I do with myself and my clients. We have many thorns which are part of our humanity. Many of us try to push these parts aside which causes separation and division within us. We are meant to be whole. Just like the rarest essence of the rose lives in the thorns, the raw material for your power lives in your shadow. We need both parts to be all of who we are. When we make our “thorns” conscious, we no longer act them out. We own ourselves. There is so much power in that. We release ourselves from victimhood and take responsibility for ourselves and our lives. When we shine the light of consciousness on our thorns/darkness, we become more aligned with our essence. Learn to love your thorns and blossom in the fullness of the rose you are meant to be. You may just find some treasures in there!!
From my heart to yours, wishing you Happy Holidays.
I spent the weekend in Minneapolis finishing up a 9-month Intuitive Healer Apprenticeship Program. So many of you are fascinated by this. I have received several messages asking about this concept of developing intuition. Not sure if this will feel like good news or bad news. We all have intuition. We can all develop our unique expression of our intuition. How, you ask? We need to heal our blocks and wounds around our intuition. We can consult people to tell us about our gifts and our lives. That can sometimes lead to us turning over our power to another person. In the work I do, I help you into your own body to connect with your own intuition and your own ability to heal. I want to help you develop and own your own power. In the work I do, we utilize the chakras as an entry/exit point.
Healing our trauma, blocks and wounds so that we can more fully embody ourselves can sometimes be and feel easy and other times, not so much. It is a process that can heal us to the cellular/molecular level. It can actually, shift and change the expression of our DNA. Our blocks live in our body; the cells, organs, tissues. If you want to be healthier on any level, physical, emotional, mental or spiritual, healing your Self of wounds, traumas and belief systems that have been passed down to you, will greatly enhance your intuitive abilities. What sometimes looks and feels like magic is actually is rooted in science.
To be the highest expression of your Self on this earth, you must clear those blocks. We all have them. You are what you believe you are. Humans are magicians, in that we can awaken to our divinity. Within our divinity lies endless possibilities of living heaven on earth. Here’s to your healing and the development of your own intuitive abilities!
I was talking with a friend the other day and she mentioned she is going on a Leadership Retreat in France sometime in 2019. The Retreat Leader is a chef and they will be doing cooking lessons and relating how they cook to their management style. It made me reflect, as cooking is a huge passion of mine and a really big part of my life and connecting with people. Those of you who have come to my events and workshops, know what pleasure I take in preparing a festive, soulful and beautiful meal. It is part of my offering. A Ritual Food Celebration! That simple ritual of breaking bread together, moves me to my core.
I love everything food…….from grocery shopping, cooking, presenting and sharing the meal! I really began to see the similarities in how I cook and how I choose to live my life! Isn’t it fascinating what a little self-reflection will uncover? You see, I have never been a person who lives my life according to a plan. Let me back track a bit. I was a person who thought I had a plan for my life. When that blew up in my face over 20 years ago, I ditched the planning! As I reflect on my cooking, stand in the truth of what a fabulous cook I am, how much I love to feed and nurture people through my food, it dawns on me that it is also how I now live my life.
When I am cooking, I don’t follow recipes. Rather cooking for me is a passionate, creative expression that plummets me into the NOW like nothing else, well maybe sex! I look at what I have for ingredients and then I go to town and create! Many of you know I am writing a cook book. It proves a difficult project because I’m so in the NOW when I cook, that I can’t duplicate what I did because I can’t remember as I was so in the moment while creating! (I need an assistant!)
In my life, I also am not a planner which really pisses some people off. It’s not that I’m trying to piss anyone off, but rather I do what moves me in the NOW. Don’t misunderstand me, I can and do show up for appointments and commitments that I make. But what I do not do, is plan months or years into the future. I have spent years and thousands upon thousands of dollars on cultivating being in the moment, being present for my life. Not living in the past and not living in the future, but rather being HERE in the NOW.
This self-reflection on my cooking and living has really shown me that I am more present than not in my life these days. I’ll take it!! Our life is happening in the moment, not the past or future!! How much of your life are you missing? How many of you spend hours planning and scheduling every minute of your life? Usually we make all these plans and then life happens. LIFE happens on its own terms. It is bigger than us, something we can’t control. We are meant to experience, not control LIFE.
Trust me, I’m still a work in progress; I always will be! Most of our control issues are attempts at keeping ourselves safe. In my training at Hartford Family Institute in Body-Centered Psychotherapy, I learned to cultivate a relationship with my fear rather than negate it. Fear is part of being human. I know I was more scared than I ever consciously knew. But knowing that, now gives me the power to create internal safety. When I feel safe inside and connected to my life force, I can live and create with wreckless abandon!
I’m going to share a recent meal I prepared! I had 2 gorgeous pieces of swordfish. I opened my refrigerator and looked at what was in there. This is what I created!
Grilled Swordfish with Tina’s Green Sauce
2 pieces of swordfish
½ Onion finely chopped
3 cloves of Garlic finely minced
½ Jalapeno pepper finely minced
2 limes juiced
Handful of Cilantro
Salt and Pepper
Rub your swordfish with olive oil. Sprinkle with Salt and Pepper. Cook on a hot grill – about 7 minutes
total. (cooking time will depend on the thickness of your fish)
While your fish is grilling:
In a skillet over medium-high heat, pour about a tablespoon of olive oil, heat and add onions, stir and let
cook about a minute, add garlic and jalapeno, stir and cook for a couple of minutes.
In a blender, add cilantro, lime juice and about ¼ c water, blend.
Add about a tablespoon of honey and the contents of the blender to the skillet. Let cook for about 2-3
Add your grilled fish to the skillet, top with sauce, let simmer for about 2 minutes! Enjoy!!
Here’s to cooking and living in the NOW!!
I know, you’re probably wondering about that title!! I feel ya!! Hear me out!!
I had a great day today!! My morning started with a healthy smoothie made with Flax Seed Milk, VegaOne Protein Powder and wild, organic blueberries. I went to the gym where I did 30 minutes of cardio and worked on my sexy shoulders in the weight room!! LOL
Came home, took a nice, hot bath, gave a fabulous 90-minute massage/energy work treatment, had a couple of meetings, a couple more clients; responded to emails and returned phone calls. Holy smokes this life of being an entrepreneur can be exhausting!! I wouldn’t change it for anything!!
Had my healthy, clean dinner – lentil soup and a rice cake, YUM!! At this point, I was reflecting on the wonderful day I had. I mean really, I was like, “I am so in alignment, everything just flowed today.” HA! Until I decided to mow my lawn! I should have stopped at the reflection part…
When I decide to mow my lawn, I am on a mission!! I look like a complete freekin’ maniac; soooo focused on the task at hand. Well, tonight, the mower kept dying! Can I just tell you, that wonderful mood turned into me swearing at the mower, pulling on the starter like an animal and really hitting a place of anger inside of me. Oh yeah, so much for the alignment part, right?! Isn’t it amazing how a jovial mood can turn to shit in a minute? At this point, I was deep breathing, praying, still cussing at the mower in my head, instead of out loud, determined to finish this particular part of my lawn which is a field; literally. I mean really Tina…what’s the big deal if you don’t finish?
My anger, or any other feeling for that matter, is MY feeling. When I choose to take responsibility for it, rather than blame it on someone or something, that is where my power lies.
I really decided to explore my anger. I mean, after all, the lawn mower was not creating it, but rather was touching it. My anger, or any other feeling for that matter, is MY feeling. When I choose to take responsibility for it, rather than blame it on someone or something, that is where my power lies. When I choose not to be a victim and take responsibility for myself and MY feelings, that is the place wherein choice lies. I took responsibility for my anger, stopped beating up the lawn mower and myself for not being able to start it and keep it from dying, and said the amazing, magical words I learned from my teacher, Naomi Lupin-Alpert, @Hartford Family Institute/Body-Centered Psychotherapy training, where I studied for 10 years: “I am angry and I need love.” When we can embody our feelings and bring love to the shadow parts, that is when we are truly bringing healing to ourselves. That is a moment where the molecule of love meets the molecules of anger and transformation happens at the cellular/molecular level! It’s not just an affirmation, it’s an embodiment…that’s what’s needed to make the shift.
What has your lawn mower taught you lately? Please share!! Hopefully, I am not the only one!!
Keepin’ it Real…
For the last year, I have repeatedly had this intuition about adding a Professional Development piece to my Adventures. If you know me, you know that I really value and trust my intuition. I kept getting the feeling that women are trying to assert themselves in the world differently. There is a demand for our presence, a new opportunity for us to step boldly into our feminine power. There is a necessity for our voices as women. This time is about the Feminine Rising!! I recently attended a conference in New York on Women and their Mastery. Here are some statistics about our collective:
- Twice as many women suffer from depression as men. Fewer than half of them will ever seek treatment.
- Women attempt suicide approximately twice as often as men.
- Approximately 91% of women are unhappy with their bodies.
- 10 million women in the US suffer from eating disorders.
- 1 in 8 women will develop breast cancer in her lifetime.
- Every 60 seconds, a woman in the US dies of heart disease.
- In the first 3 months of 2017, there were 168 bills aimed at restricting reproductive rights introduced at the state and federal levels. (This one makes my blood boil!)
Startling, I know! I’m not trying to be a Debbie Downer, however, I want to be in reality! This is reality! I see this over and over again. I have been an entrepreneur for over 15 years in holistic wellness. What I have learned personally, and seen in many, many of my female clients, is that self-care is put on the back burner. We usually take care of ourselves when we hit the wall and are sliding into the abyss.
If we are to step forward in our changing roles as women, self-care, as well as personal and professional development must be at the forefront of our awareness and actions. The world needs us to be our best selves!! Have you heard what the Dali Lama said? He stated, “The world will be saved by the Western woman! https://www.huffingtonpost.com/emily-bennington/western-women_b_2277916.html The last time I checked on the state of the world, there’s a lot for us to do!!!
While we can’t change the world on our own, this travel experience includes a community service project rooted in empowering the women in the culture/area we visit. You see ladies, this feminine power is a global thing!
Back to my intuition…
I joined the Foxboro Rotary almost 2 years ago and met Karen Benz, a strategic leadership coach, and professor at Roger Williams University. I felt an instant connection to her; just good people!! I sat on it for a bit; got to know Karen and see her in action, experienced first-hand her work and knew it was right. I asked if we could meet for lunch. I had something I wanted to discuss with her. I told her what I was feeling; she loved the idea and SHEE Travel was born! SHEE – Self-Care, Health, Enrichment & Excellence. Travel with a twist! Travel that encompasses mind, body, heart, soul, and spirit.
Women come alive in connection and collaboration with one another. This trip will provide both! A safe, nurturing environment where you can express, be seen, heard and valued. Not only will we be in the land of Greek Goddesses surrounded by beauty and adventure, but we will also be teaching and learning from one another. We will visit Athens and the islands of Crete and Santorini. Each day we will be doing yoga and meditation, coming together in circle to discuss topics of interest, both personal and professional and participate in Mastermind Sessions. For specific details, click here!!!
I hope you’ll consider putting yourSELF first and coming to Greece with us for this life-changing, revolutionary travel experience!! Come for an extended week of sisterhood, growth, and connection. OPA!!
Heavens is all I can say! We are in some WILD times. Mother Earth is clearing out lots of old energies, and not very quietly. So much chaos and devastation around us and within us. My heart goes out to all the people affected by the hurricanes, fires, and earthquakes. Every energy holds a polarity. There is lots of opportunity here to rebuild things, including ourselves, differently.
I feel like we are being asked to take a long, hard look at ourselves, our priorities, our relationships, what we value in society, culture and within. Where’s your connection to your heart in all of this? Do you feel like you have lost it somewhere along the way? I know that feeling. In my 9-month healing group, Sacred Seven, we delve boldly and fully into this terrain. The group becomes the sacred container for the deep dive into self. We explore our shadow qualities so that we can gain the power of untapped or disowned parts of the self. That’s right, your shadow is not to be feared, it is the raw material for your magnificent Power and Light! When we heal the shadow part, we become light. Lots of us spend our lives pushing down feelings, repressing energy, doing a lot of spiritual bypass work to avoid getting into the deep, forgotten parts of the self. When we approach our healing like this, we never get to the energetic roots of our issues. How many times have you worked on an issue, done more positive affirmations that you can count? Only to find that the issue has not resolved. You’ve got to get to the root, the cellular level of the energetic.
If you feel like you are being called to look within and are ready to blaze the trail of the Spiritual Warrior or take the Hero/Heroine’s journey, please call me: 508-208-8037, to determine if this program is a good fit for you. It’s four Saturday’s and 27 Monday evenings. We go into the energetic body via the chakras. Using imagery, mindfulness, and body-centered Gestalt therapy, we shift the molecular structure of old holding patterns and beliefs in the body. I love teaching this program and watching participants heal, grow and step more powerfully into SELF.I leave you with a Jung quote:
“That I feed the hungry, forgive an insult, and love my enemy – these are great virtues. But what if I should discover that the poorest of the beggars and most impudent of offenders are all within me, and that I stand the need of all the alms of my kindness; that I myself am the enemy who must be loved – what then?”