I know, you’re probably wondering about that title!! I feel ya!! Hear me out!!
I had a great day today!! My morning started with a healthy smoothie made with Flax Seed Milk, VegaOne Protein Powder and wild, organic blueberries. I went to the gym where I did 30 minutes of cardio and worked on my sexy shoulders in the weight room!! LOL
Came home, took a nice, hot bath, gave a fabulous 90-minute massage/energy work treatment, had a couple of meetings, a couple more clients; responded to emails and returned phone calls. Holy smokes this life of being an entrepreneur can be exhausting!! I wouldn’t change it for anything!!
Had my healthy, clean dinner – lentil soup and a rice cake, YUM!! At this point, I was reflecting on the wonderful day I had. I mean really, I was like, “I am so in alignment, everything just flowed today.” HA! Until I decided to mow my lawn! I should have stopped at the reflection part…
When I decide to mow my lawn, I am on a mission!! I look like a complete freekin’ maniac; soooo focused on the task at hand. Well, tonight, the mower kept dying! Can I just tell you, that wonderful mood turned into me swearing at the mower, pulling on the starter like an animal and really hitting a place of anger inside of me. Oh yeah, so much for the alignment part, right?! Isn’t it amazing how a jovial mood can turn to shit in a minute? At this point, I was deep breathing, praying, still cussing at the mower in my head, instead of out loud, determined to finish this particular part of my lawn which is a field; literally. I mean really Tina…what’s the big deal if you don’t finish?
My anger, or any other feeling for that matter, is MY feeling. When I choose to take responsibility for it, rather than blame it on someone or something, that is where my power lies.
I really decided to explore my anger. I mean, after all, the lawn mower was not creating it, but rather was touching it. My anger, or any other feeling for that matter, is MY feeling. When I choose to take responsibility for it, rather than blame it on someone or something, that is where my power lies. When I choose not to be a victim and take responsibility for myself and MY feelings, that is the place wherein choice lies. I took responsibility for my anger, stopped beating up the lawn mower and myself for not being able to start it and keep it from dying, and said the amazing, magical words I learned from my teacher, Naomi Lupin-Alpert, @Hartford Family Institute/Body-Centered Psychotherapy training, where I studied for 10 years: “I am angry and I need love.” When we can embody our feelings and bring love to the shadow parts, that is when we are truly bringing healing to ourselves. That is a moment where the molecule of love meets the molecules of anger and transformation happens at the cellular/molecular level! It’s not just an affirmation, it’s an embodiment…that’s what’s needed to make the shift.
What has your lawn mower taught you lately? Please share!! Hopefully, I am not the only one!!
Keepin’ it Real…
For the last year, I have repeatedly had this intuition about adding a Professional Development piece to my Adventures. If you know me, you know that I really value and trust my intuition. I kept getting the feeling that women are trying to assert themselves in the world differently. There is a demand for our presence, a new opportunity for us to step boldly into our feminine power. There is a necessity for our voices as women. This time is about the Feminine Rising!! I recently attended a conference in New York on Women and their Mastery. Here are some statistics about our collective:
- Twice as many women suffer from depression as men. Fewer than half of them will ever seek treatment.
- Women attempt suicide approximately twice as often as men.
- Approximately 91% of women are unhappy with their bodies.
- 10 million women in the US suffer from eating disorders.
- 1 in 8 women will develop breast cancer in her lifetime.
- Every 60 seconds, a woman in the US dies of heart disease.
- In the first 3 months of 2017, there were 168 bills aimed at restricting reproductive rights introduced at the state and federal levels. (This one makes my blood boil!)
Startling, I know! I’m not trying to be a Debbie Downer, however, I want to be in reality! This is reality! I see this over and over again. I have been an entrepreneur for over 15 years in holistic wellness. What I have learned personally, and seen in many, many of my female clients, is that self-care is put on the back burner. We usually take care of ourselves when we hit the wall and are sliding into the abyss.
If we are to step forward in our changing roles as women, self-care, as well as personal and professional development must be at the forefront of our awareness and actions. The world needs us to be our best selves!! Have you heard what the Dali Lama said? He stated, “The world will be saved by the Western woman! https://www.huffingtonpost.com/emily-bennington/western-women_b_2277916.html The last time I checked on the state of the world, there’s a lot for us to do!!!
While we can’t change the world on our own, this travel experience includes a community service project rooted in empowering the women in the culture/area we visit. You see ladies, this feminine power is a global thing!
Back to my intuition…
I joined the Foxboro Rotary almost 2 years ago and met Karen Benz, a strategic leadership coach, and professor at Roger Williams University. I felt an instant connection to her; just good people!! I sat on it for a bit; got to know Karen and see her in action, experienced first-hand her work and knew it was right. I asked if we could meet for lunch. I had something I wanted to discuss with her. I told her what I was feeling; she loved the idea and SHEE Travel was born! SHEE – Self-Care, Health, Enrichment & Excellence. Travel with a twist! Travel that encompasses mind, body, heart, soul, and spirit.
Women come alive in connection and collaboration with one another. This trip will provide both! A safe, nurturing environment where you can express, be seen, heard and valued. Not only will we be in the land of Greek Goddesses surrounded by beauty and adventure, but we will also be teaching and learning from one another. We will visit Athens and the islands of Crete and Santorini. Each day we will be doing yoga and meditation, coming together in circle to discuss topics of interest, both personal and professional and participate in Mastermind Sessions. For specific details, click here!!!
I hope you’ll consider putting yourSELF first and coming to Greece with us for this life-changing, revolutionary travel experience!! Come for an extended week of sisterhood, growth, and connection. OPA!!
Heavens is all I can say! We are in some WILD times. Mother Earth is clearing out lots of old energies, and not very quietly. So much chaos and devastation around us and within us. My heart goes out to all the people affected by the hurricanes, fires, and earthquakes. Every energy holds a polarity. There is lots of opportunity here to rebuild things, including ourselves, differently.
I feel like we are being asked to take a long, hard look at ourselves, our priorities, our relationships, what we value in society, culture and within. Where’s your connection to your heart in all of this? Do you feel like you have lost it somewhere along the way? I know that feeling. In my 9-month healing group, Sacred Seven, we delve boldly and fully into this terrain. The group becomes the sacred container for the deep dive into self. We explore our shadow qualities so that we can gain the power of untapped or disowned parts of the self. That’s right, your shadow is not to be feared, it is the raw material for your magnificent Power and Light! When we heal the shadow part, we become light. Lots of us spend our lives pushing down feelings, repressing energy, doing a lot of spiritual bypass work to avoid getting into the deep, forgotten parts of the self. When we approach our healing like this, we never get to the energetic roots of our issues. How many times have you worked on an issue, done more positive affirmations that you can count? Only to find that the issue has not resolved. You’ve got to get to the root, the cellular level of the energetic.
If you feel like you are being called to look within and are ready to blaze the trail of the Spiritual Warrior or take the Hero/Heroine’s journey, please call me: 508-208-8037, to determine if this program is a good fit for you. It’s four Saturday’s and 27 Monday evenings. We go into the energetic body via the chakras. Using imagery, mindfulness, and body-centered Gestalt therapy, we shift the molecular structure of old holding patterns and beliefs in the body. I love teaching this program and watching participants heal, grow and step more powerfully into SELF.I leave you with a Jung quote:
“That I feed the hungry, forgive an insult, and love my enemy – these are great virtues. But what if I should discover that the poorest of the beggars and most impudent of offenders are all within me, and that I stand the need of all the alms of my kindness; that I myself am the enemy who must be loved – what then?”
Sacred Seven: A Healing Journey Through the Chakras
Last Call for Registration – Program begins September 23rd.
A Pooch Named Bubba, a Broken Heart, a Yoga Community
Holy crap, last week was tough! My son, Kevin, rescued Bubba, an 85 lb. bulldog mix about 2 years ago. This guy was the sweetest dog; happy, talkative, soulful and loving. Bubba was my first grandchild; OH how I loved this boy. Bubba became ill at the beginning of August; a trip to the vet reassured us he had severe allergies and Kennel Cough. We administered his daily dose of Claritin and 10 days of antibiotics. Bubba wasn’t rebounding. He couldn’t bark, eat his dry food, and was very lethargic. I began cooking soft foods for him. If you know me, any excuse to cook and feed someone is part of my passion and purpose!
Kevin brought Bubba back to the vet last Tuesday. Bubba never did well at the vet and had to be sedated to be examined. A small dose of sedation was administered due to Bubba’s condition. About an hour later, Kevin received a phone call. Bubba became anxious being examined, stopped breathing and was dead. Kevin was beyond emotional, in shock, despair, and disbelief. I left my meeting to be with him. We shed our gut-wrenching tears, trying to make sense out of what had happened; to no avail.
I have a yoga community that I have been leading for over almost 20 years. I teach a class on Tuesday evenings. I thought long and hard about canceling due to my emotional state. The focus of my teaching is healing the nervous system from emotional trauma. I could cancel or I could be brave and really walk my talk; use my process as a teaching. A big part of my work is supporting people in having the safety to feel their emotions; to not have to numb them or disconnect from them. I chose the courageous route. I showed up in my messy, but beautiful broken heart. I shared honestly, sobbing, and expressed how I needed their support. Sometimes we lead the community and sometimes we need the community! This was my moment of need. We had an open and honest discussion about grief and how it is addressed in our culture. You know, that ONE bereavement day most people get, which is totally insane.
What if we didn’t have to hold ourselves together? What if there were beauty and healing in allowing the breakdown… the falling apart?
As a therapist/intuitive energy healer, I can’t tell you how many clients come in around loss, thinking they should be over it. Grief is not something that has a timeline, in fact, it really never goes away. It shifts and changes. Sometimes it’s hovering beneath the surface and sometimes it is front and center. In Body-Centered Psychotherapy, we learn that grief, not met in connection, leads to suffering. Suffering is what culture supports just by the mere way it is set up. When we are met in connection in any emotion, it allows it to more easily flow; we have support, so we don’t have to hold against the feeling/experience. How many times in grief do you hear someone say, “I am trying to hold myself together”? What if we didn’t have to hold ourselves together? What if there were beauty and healing in allowing the breakdown… the falling apart? I met my community in the place of falling apart. It was a beautiful experience. I felt held and supported. Isn’t that the purpose of community, to help each other? Bubba left me a great gift – the gift of being seen falling apart, openly sharing my broken heart and the courage to be vulnerable. In my experience, there is nothing more powerful than realness. So sorry for your loss Kevin. RIP dear, sweet Bubba.
One of the best things any of us can do is take better care of ourselves. In our crazy, hectic, fast-paced life, it can become challenging to take the time to properly care for ourselves in mind, body, and spirit. Learn to make self-care a priority. When you are full, everyone in your life benefits. Here are my 5 simple and easy go to’s when I need relief:
1. Guided Meditation
Lock yourself up and away from the world. Put your earplugs in and go on a journey. Guaranteed to make you feel more relaxed and refreshed to tackle what’s next.
2. Deep Breathing
Yep, that simple. Sit up nice and straight in your chair. Close your eyes, place one hand over your belly and one hand over your heart. Take some long, deep, slow breaths in and out through your nose – about 3 minutes of this will completely reset your nervous system. You will feel both calm and energized!
3. Take a Walk
Get out and take a brisk 10-minute walk. Take in the nature around you, feel the air, swing your arms. The outdoors will leave you feeling refreshed and grounded.
4. Take a Bath
A hot bath with some sea salt or Epsom salts, 5-10 drops of lavender oil to relax you…….. light a candle…………instant luxury!!
Blast your favorite song and dance like a maniac…….I love this one!!! Dancing completely releases tension and you will feel so free after you bust a move!!
I’m not asking you to find hours………try just a few minutes a day to begin. You’ll get the hang of it, crave more and in short order will feel how much of a difference it makes. Here’s to your self-care!